The Empty Chair (Ritual for Holidays and Gatherings)
When to Use It: On birthdays, Christmas, family meals, or any occasion where their absence echoes loudly.
Why It Matters: Ritualising their absence allows space for grief to sit at the table — instead of pretending it doesn’t exist.
Steps:
Set an empty chair at the table or gathering space.
Place something of theirs on the seat; a scarf, a flower, a photo.
Invite loved ones to speak a memory aloud or in silence.
Light a candle nearby, or toast in their honour.
Leave the chair undisturbed throughout the gathering.
Optional Add-Ons:
Write them a letter and place it on the chair.
Play their favourite song.
Include a dish they loved.
Blessing:
“This space is not empty. It’s full of memory, love, and the ache of missing you. You are still part of this family, still part of this moment.”