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You didn’t land here by accident.
You’re here because something tore your world apart, and you needed a place where that truth could exist out loud.
Maybe it was a loss.
Maybe it’s someone you love who’s grieving.
Maybe you’re a therapist, a friend, a parent, trying to understand what this ache really is.
Or maybe the silence around death just got too loud.
Whatever brought you here,
you needed a space where things don’t have to be okay to be real.
This is that space.
This is where I lay it down - the rage, the ache, the softness, the survival.
This is where I tell the truth about loss in a world that keeps asking you to move on.
- Kirsten
A quiet question
Where are you trying to create control right now, and what is it protecting?
You can sit with this, write it down, or email it to me.
If you do, I’ll read it. No fixing, no pressure, just listening.
Not sure where to start?
What’s New in This Space
Small updates, big feelings - the latest from This is Grief.
This week has held a lot of outward movement; books travelling, conversations widening, and new support resources opening - all alongside the same quiet, ongoing heart of this work.
Here’s what’s been unfolding.
• New on the Blog – “Control, After the Day Love Wasn’t Enough”
A piece about what happens after the worst day - how the instinct to control can rise from helplessness, and how grief reshapes our relationship with safety, certainty, and love. Honest, confronting, and deeply human.
• RNZ Conversation and Article
The RNZ interview and article are now live, opening up a national conversation about grief, suicide loss, and what support can really look like. I’m grateful for the care and depth they brought to the story.
• The Year After Kahlia – Presales Growing
Presales continue steadily, which is both humbling and surreal. Thank you to everyone who has already ordered and shared the book - it matters more than you know.
• Books Reaching Bookshops and Libraries
Copies have now been sent out to Wardini Books, Volume Books, Poppies, and Scorpio Books, with more libraries coming on board as well. Seeing the book move into community spaces feels quietly significant.
• New Offering – 28-Day Guided Writing Course
The 28-day guided, self-paced writing and reflection course has officially launched. It’s designed as a gentle companion for people moving through grief; structured, supportive, and spacious enough to move at your own pace.
• Launch This Saturday
The book launch is happening this Saturday, with copies available from the 21st. A meaningful milestone, and one I’m stepping into with equal parts gratitude and nerves.
This work keeps moving - not fast, not loud; but rooted and real.
Thank you for walking beside me through all the chapters - the ones already written, and the ones still finding their voice.
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