The Deathaversary (Marking the Day)
When to Use It: On the anniversary of their death. The day the world changed.
Why It Matters: Grief marks time differently. This day holds weight — and it deserves to be acknowledged.
Steps:
Plan ahead: decide what you need; solitude, ritual, or people.
Light a candle at the same time they passed (if known).
Read something aloud; their favourite poem or your own words.
Visit a place they loved, or create a small altar at home.
Let yourself cry, laugh, ache; or feel nothing.
Optional Add-Ons:
Begin a new tradition to honour them.
Write a yearly letter.
Share a post or private message to the world.
Blessing:
“This date will never be just a date again. It’s a circle on the calendar where the world stopped. And where I still remember.”