The Saying of the Name
When to Use It: When people stop mentioning them. When you feel like their memory is fading.
Why It Matters: Saying their name is resistance to forgetting. It’s an act of love that keeps them real.
Steps:
Say their name aloud. Just that. Say it again.
Whisper it to the wind, write it in sand, carve it in your day.
Tell someone a story with their name at the centre.
Let their name be a daily act.
Optional Add-Ons:
Create a ritual object with their name (stone, tile, necklace).
Write their name with chalk in a secret place.
Blessing:
“Your name is still mine to speak. You are not gone; you are named. Over and over again.”