To the one who still feels them with you,
There’s a kind of love that doesn’t end when a life does.
It doesn’t disappear.
It doesn’t close the door quietly and leave.
It changes shape.
You might feel it when something small happens and your first instinct is still to tell them.
When a song comes on and your body reacts before your mind does.
When you catch yourself using a phrase they always used, or laughing in a way that sounds like them.
This is the love that won’t let go.
Not in a painful, gripping way;
but in a steady, woven-in way.
The kind that lives in your reflexes.
In your nervous system.
In the way your heart still reaches.
Grief teaches us a lot about absence.
But it also reveals something else:
presence that doesn’t rely on physical form.
You don’t have to “hold on” to keep this love alive.
You don’t have to perform remembrance.
If you loved deeply, the bond is already doing its own quiet work inside you.
If this week you’ve felt them near in strange or subtle ways,
that isn’t imagination.
It’s connection continuing.
One true thing:
Love doesn’t end. It learns how to live differently.
Quote:
“Unable are the loved to die, for love is immortality.”
- Emily Dickinson
Song:
“Anchor” - Novo Amor
A gentle ritual, if it feels right:
Choose one ordinary thing to do with them this week.
Drink your tea. Walk the dog. Watch the sky change.
And quietly, in your own way, include them.
Not as a memorial.
As relationship.
Journal prompt (only if it feels okay):
Where do I still feel them most in my life?
One thing to remember this week:
Continuing bonds are not a sign you’re stuck. They’re a sign love is still active.
A note from me:
I still talk to Kahlia.
Not in a dramatic way. In the small ways. The everyday ways.
In the car. In my head. In moments I wish she could see.
For a long time, I wondered if that meant I wasn’t “accepting” her death. Now I know it means I am living inside the truth of our relationship, not just the fact of her absence.
If you feel someone still woven through your days, you don’t need to undo that.
You don’t need to outgrow it.
Love is not something to recover from.
If this touched something tender, you’re welcome to reply.
Sometimes it helps just to say their name.
With you,
Kirsten