Finding the right person matters.
Not every kind of support will feel right for every person.
You might want someone who understands grief specifically. You might need support after suicide loss. You might want a counsellor you can see regularly, or simply somewhere to begin when you have no idea what you’re looking for.
There is no “right” level of grief you need to reach before you ask for support.
Start with what feels closest to what you need today.
I want to find a counsellor
Help finding someone you can talk to regularly, including grief-informed counsellors and therapists.
I need grief-specific support
Bereavement services and organisations that understand grief, loss and life after someone dies.
I need someone now
If today feels unbearable, or you need another human being with you right now, there are people you can contact.
You don’t have to know exactly what you need.
Sometimes finding support is its own kind of exhausting.
You might contact someone and know immediately they’re not right for you. You might try counselling and decide you need something different. You might find someone who makes you feel understood in a way you didn’t realise you were missing.
You are allowed to be particular about who you let into your grief.
The right support shouldn’t make you feel rushed, judged, corrected, or as though there is a version of grief you should be performing better.
You’re looking for someone who can sit beside what is true.
And if the first person isn’t that person, you are allowed to keep looking.
You don’t have to carry everything alone. But you do get to choose who helps you carry it.
